Tuesday, January 23, 2024

Countdown to Book Launch on February 1!

Chasing History: Exploring My Ancestral Roots - Blog Post #37
By Tonya Graham McQuade

BLAST OFF!

The book is now available on Amazon!

Here's the LINK. Woohoo!


10 Days: Mollie's Flag

To celebrate the anticipated book launch of A State Divided: The Civil War Letters of James Calaway Hale and Benjamin Petree of Andrew County, Missouri, I will be doing a ten-day "countdown," which will include brief excerpts from the book. Each excerpt will focus on a different topic that you will learn more about by reading the book. I hope you'll follow along each day to see the newest addition, then buy the book from Amazon on Feb. 1 to read more! You can also check out my new website, tonyagrahammcquade.com, for more information on this book and some of my other projects, as well as to see related photos from my book and research trips.


10 days until Book Launch!


Today's excerpt gives you a glimpse at how James Calaway Hale’s three-year journey through the Civil War began:


On August 30, James left home and boarded the Hannibal-St. Joseph Railroad line – which had been completed in 1859 to connect Missouri’s second and third largest cities – to begin his journey to St. Louis. That was the same railroad that had been attacked by the bushwhackers almost exactly one year earlier, which they would continue to target throughout the war. In St. Louis, James reported to Benton Barracks to be mustered into service on September 5, 1862, in the 33rd Regiment, Missouri Infantry, Volunteers, Company H, under the command of Col. William A. Pile. With him, along with his extra clothes, toiletries, and shaving kit, he carried a flag his daughter Mary Ann had made for him. It was not a full-size flag, with just nine stars set on a patch of blue, and three red and two white stripes, each about an inch and a half wide. The whole flag measured just 9” by 14”, but it was just the right size for him to fold up and keep in his pocket as he marched along. He carried it with him for all three years of the war.


If you want to know more about James’s three year journey through the Civil War, first in the 33rd Missouri Infantry Volunteers and later in the Invalid Corps, be sure to buy A State Divided: The Civil War Letters of James Calaway Hale and Benjamin Petree of Andrew County Missouri, available Feb. 1 on Amazon!


9 Days - Unidentified Soldier, 33rd Missouri Infantry, at Benton Barracks 

(from Library of Congress Collection)


9 days until Book Launch!


In today's excerpt from A State Divided: The Civil War Letters of James Calaway Hale and Benjamin Petree of Andrew County Missouri, I share a passage from one of James C. Hale’s first letters to his family. Written November 28, 1862, from Houston, Texas County, Missouri, here James describes the conditions he encountered as he and his regiment marched through southern Missouri. While I corrected much of the spelling in his letters and added punctuation, I tried to keep his “voice,” as you will see:


I have never seen a Rebel yet that I know to be one. They have all left this part. They is four Regiments of us that goes together. We have six cannons. They is one company of cavalry and the rest is infantry. They is no use for infantry to travel through a country such as this. You may travel all day and not pass a half dozen houses and only cabins at that. It is the poorest and barrenest and rockiest and hilliest land and not much water, but where they is water, it is good. It looks to me that women and children will suffer here in this part of the country, for the army is killing all the hogs and cattle that is close around where they camp. I have never killed nothing since I left. They are burning all the rails from round the farms wherever they go. We left the 99th Illinois Regiment at Hartville, and they had sent their teams to Rolla for provisions – twenty-five teams, six mules, to a wagon – and the last day we marched we met the teams going on to their Regiment. They was about a hundred men of them all. They had two wagons loaded with blankets and other clothing for the soldiers, and that night they was all taken by a band of guerillas, several men killed. They got near two hundred mules and horses, and them they did not kill, they stripped and let them go and burnt they wagons. That is the report. Now our teams is gone after the Regiment. They will be here tomorrow night if no bad luck, and then we will know all about it.


If you want to know more about James’s experiences and insights as he marched through Missouri, Kentucky, and Arkansas, be sure to buy A State Divided: The Civil War Letters of James Calaway Hale and Benjamin Petree of Andrew County Missouri, available Feb. 1 on Amazon!



8 Days: This mural in Centralia, Missouri, depicts another of the Confederate 
guerrillas' infamous acts: The Centralia Massacre

8 days until Book Launch! 


In yesterday's excerpt from one of James C. Hale’s letters, you could read his take on one guerrilla attack. In today’s excerpt from A State Divided: The Civil War Letters of James Calaway Hale and Benjamin Petree of Andrew County Missouri, you learn a bit more about Missouri’s guerrilla fighters (aka. Bushwhackers). They played a big part in the Civil War in Missouri:


Jackson County was the home of William Clarke Quantrill – and of the guerrilla leaders, many believed he was the most ruthless. Quantrill had fought with Gen. Sterling Price’s army at the Battle of Wilson’s Creek and Lexington, but he had since deserted. In the last days of September of 1861, he formed his own “army” of loyal men known as “Quantrill’s Raiders.” Among his men were William “Bloody Bill” Anderson, Frank and Jesse James, and Cole Younger. He and his men were responsible for numerous brutal attacks throughout both Missouri and Kansas. Despite this, he was elevated officially to the rank of captain by the Confederate government after participating in the First Battle of Independence in August 1862, and his raiders – considered outlaws by the U.S. government – were officially recognized as a troop by the Confederacy. He and most of his men, however, were still in Independence at the time of the Battle of Lone Jack, celebrating their victory and looting the surrounding area. Only 18-year-old Cole Younger was present in Lone Jack; and ironically, it was he who helped save the wounded Union Major Emory Foster and his injured brother from being executed by a drunk and vengeful Confederate bushwhacker.


If you want to know more about Quantrill’s Raiders and the role guerrilla fighting - as well as Frank and Jesse James and the Younger brothers - played in Missouri (and Kansas, just across the border), be sure to buy A State Divided: The Civil War Letters of James Calaway Hale and Benjamin Petree of Andrew County, Missouri on Feb. 1 on Amazon!


7 Days: James C. Hale spent a lot of time at Benton Barracks in St. Louis, MO


7 days until Book Launch! 


Today’s excerpt from A State Divided: The Civil War Letters of James Calaway Hale and Benjamin Petree of Andrew County, Missouri includes another passage from one of James’s letters. Here, he describes his arrival in Columbus, Kentucky, and talks a bit about the Battle of Belmont (involving Belmont, Missouri, and Columbus, Kentucky). You'll also see him use him favorite word for secessionists - "Seesech":


We left the Benton Barracks on the 23rd of December [1862] and landed at Columbus, Hickman County, on the Mississippi twenty-five miles below Cairo, where we are stationed in a large fort which the Seesech built and fortified. They left in June and burnt all of their huts up, but their breastworks is all here yet for three miles. They had a fight here last summer, and they killed a great many of our men. Missouri is on the other side of the river, and they had their big guns planted up on the Kentucky side on a high bluff and shot our men over in Missouri. They just slayed the Union troops, but the Union holds this large fort now. It would take several thousand to take this place now. They is about twenty thousand soldiers here. The Seesech was close here last week. They expected a battle every day for several days, but the Union soldiers have come in so fast that they backed out. They may come again, but if they do, they will have a happy time of it. Our troops have large cannons planted all round the breastworks and gun boats in the River, so I don’t think they will undertake us.


If you want to know more about the Battle of Belmont and James’s time in Kentucky, be sure to buy A State Divided: The Civil War Letters of James Calaway Hale and Benjamin Petree of Andrew County, Missouri on Feb. 1 on Amazon!


6 Days: A Sketch of the Imperial Warship as it appeared
in the August 8, 1863, edition of Harper's Weekly.


6 days until Book Launch! 


While camped in Helena, Arkansas, James C. Hale watched the buildup to the Vicksburg Campaign, which was 175 miles further south along the Mississippi River. In today’s excerpt from A State Divided: The Civil War Letters of James Calaway Hale and Benjamin Petree of Andrew County, Missouri, he offers his own descriptions of what he sees:


I bought myself a high pair of boots the other day – water proof – so as I could wade deep mud, but it has cleared off and has not rained for over a week. The mud has all dried up, but the River has got up so high that it is all over the bottoms and all over town. I see that canoes is in demand. It is all round the people’s houses. They is but one way now you can get in town, and the soldiers laid timber all over town from the fort to the levy. The boys is catching fish every day out on this back water. The town is right up on the bank of the river. Our quarters is built about two or three hundred yards back next to the bluff, above highwater mark. 


I can set in the door and see five or six miles up and down the River. They is no time that you may look up or down that you cannot see people coming or going. They is soldiers going down all the time from Ioway, Wisconsin, Minnesota, Missouri, Illinois, Ohio, Indiana, Kansas, and very near all over the Federal States. They will be a big fight at Vicksburg soon. We heard the Seesech will be evacuating that place, but I don’t believe it. You can’t hear the truth…. I heard about P. Peck falling overboard off of the Imperial [warship] and drowned. She is lying at the wharf ever since we come back from that White River expedition with government provisions on. She is as large as half of Savannah. She is the only boat that stays here all the time. She went up White River, and it looked like in places she filled the river full. They was thirty-two boats and two gunboats went up White River and back one just after the other. It was a beautiful sight. It looked like a traveling city moving along, but that trip all in vain, and that trip was the cause of so many soldiers taking the diarrhea and bad colds, but it is a getting healthier I believe among the soldiers now.


If you want to know more about James's life in Helena, Arkansas, the rising of the Mississippi River, and the buildup to the Vicksburg Campaign, be sure to buy A State Divided: The Civil War Letters of James Calaway Hale and Benjamin Petree of Andrew County, Missouri on Feb. 1 on Amazon!


5 Days - This Sept. 1862 illustration from "Harper's Weekly," 
titled "The Influence of Women," shows the important role many women 
played in nursing the sick and wounded


5 days until Book Launch! 


Did you know two-thirds of those who died in the Civil War died from sickness and disease, rather than fighting? Today’s excerpts from A State Divided: The Civil War Letters of James Calaway Hale and Benjamin Petree of Andrew County Missouri talk about sickness in the camps and reveals a bit about James’s personal battle - which by mid-June 1863 landed him in the hospital:


James began battling sickness – first a bad cold and diarrhea, then rheumatism – after his regiment’s return, but he wrote to his family that he was determined to “keep heart” and fight to get his health back. He purchased his own “notions,” or medicines, in an effort to treat his symptoms and improve his health. He wanted to get home to see Lizza and the children again, as well as meet his new grandson, James Henry Petree, born February 19, 1863. He wanted to live to enjoy happier days together in years to come.


As he wrote on March 8: “My Rheumatism is giving me pain in my back and hip, so I can’t go with the Regiment [as part of the Yazoo River expedition]. I bought some medicine so that if I get sick, I can take care of myself. If a man gets a little sick and gives up, he will die certain. Lots of men have died, but I never give up. I am in good spirits and I will keep, so that is half the battle.”


If you want to know more about how James C. Hale fared after being sent to the General Hospital at Benton Barracks in St. Louis, be sure to buy A State Divided: The Civil War Letters of James Calaway Hale and Benjamin Petree of Andrew County Missouri on Feb. 1 on Amazon!



4 Days - Poster advertising for men to join the Invalid Corps


4 days until Book Launch! 


While at Benton Barracks General Hospital, James witnessed the traumatic battle injuries many soldiers experienced, as well as the sicknesses and diseases that took the lives of many others. He himself suffered from severe diarrhea, stomach pain, and rheumatism, but fortunately he eventually recovered enough to be transferred into the “Invalid Corps,” later renamed the Veteran Reserve Corps. Today’s excerpt from A State Divided: The Civil War Letters of James Calaway Hale and Benjamin Petree of Andrew County, Missouri explains a bit about what that entailed:: 


The duties of the Invalid Corps, later renamed the Veteran Reserve Corps in March 1864, were “chiefly to act as provost guards and garrisons for cities; guards for hospitals and other public buildings, and as clerks, orderlies, etc. If found necessary, they may be assigned to forts, etc.” James writes in his letters about serving guard duty on various occasions, as well as helping with sweeping, cooking, and other basic chores.


Corp members included men who had lost limbs or eyes, suffered from rheumatism (as did James) or epilepsy, were experiencing other chronic illnesses or diseases, or were traumatized by what we now call PTSD. Soldiers were, by this time, in short supply – and wounded and ill soldiers who previously would have likely been granted a medical discharge were needed to serve guard duty, do supply runs, escort and watch over prisoners of war, assist with clerical work, march in parades, and help with cooking and cleaning – thus freeing up other able-bodied soldiers for the front lines. By the end of the war, more than 60,000 men served in this Corps, in more than twenty-four regiments of troops.


If you want to know more about James C. Hale’s time in the Veteran Reserve Corps in St Louis, MO, be sure to buy A State Divided: The Civil War Letters of James Calaway Hale and Benjamin Petree of Andrew County, Missouri on Feb. 1 on Amazon!


3 Days - The Burning of Columbia, South Carolina


3 days until Book Launch! 


Today's excerpt from A State Divided: The Civil War Letters of James Calaway Hale and Benjamin Petree of Andrew County, Missouri introduces Benjamin Petree, brother of Bailis (my great-great grandfather), who was drafted toward the end of the war and had to leave his wife at home with three young children – ages 3, 2, and 7 months. Here is a passage from a letter he wrote after marching through the Carolinas with Gen. William Tecumseh Sherman:


The campaign has been a complete success and accomplished all that was ever expected of it. We have marched through South Carolina, our army in four columns desolating a very large scope of country, taking all the principal cities in our route, among which was Columbia, the capitol of the state, and causing the Rebels to evacuate Charleston and Wilmington, which our forces heretofore had been unable to take, subsisting our army nearly altogether off of the rebels. We have marched more than half way through North Carolina, and we are now only a little more than thirty miles from Raleigh, the capitol of this state.


We will be apt to stay here a few weeks and recruit up a little when we expect to start again. Some of our men were in very bad condition when we arrived here. Some of them have marched as much as three hundred miles barefooted and when we got through, just about one half were without shoes and some without any clothes except what they picked up on the road. All of us threw away our overcoats, and some of them threw away blankets, knapsacks, and everything else that lighten them up on their weary march.


If you want to learn more about Benjamin's experiences as part of Sherman’s March to the Sea and his Carolinas Campaign, be sure to buy A State Divided: The Civil War Letters of James Calaway Hale and Benjamin Petree of Andrew County, Missouri on Feb. 1 on Amazon! You can also read more about the book and see more related photos on my new website - tonyagrahammcquade.com.


The surrender of Gen. Joe Johnston near Greensboro, N.C. April 26th 1865


2 days until Book Launch! 

(Though the book is really available Feb. 1 - tonight - at midnight, so apparently my countdown was off. Oops! I should have started a day earlier! It's two days until my Zoom Book Launch presentation on Feb. 1 at 7 p.m. - let me know if you want me to email you the Zoom link!)


Today's excerpt from A State Divided: The Civil War Letters of James Calaway Hale and Benjamin Petree of Andrew County, Missouri talks a bit about what happened AFTER the war’s end. Did you know Sherman and Johnson became good friends? 


After Johnston’s surrender, Sherman – the man whose armies had caused so much destruction and devastation throughout the South – set to work helping to remedy the economic situation in the South. He “issued orders ceasing all foraging and ordered commanders to loan captured horses, mules, wagons, and animals to the locals to support farming efforts…. The people in the South … recognized Sherman’s noble intentions, and during reconstruction Sherman would be one of the most respected and reliable northern officials.” Ultimately, Sherman and Johnston struck up a friendship that lasted until Sherman’s death. They escorted Ulysses S. Grant’s casket together through the streets of New York City in 1885, and Johnston served as a pallbearer at Sherman’s funeral in February 1891. Johnston died ten days later after catching a cold during the funeral procession that turned into pneumonia.


If you want to learn more about the various “surrenders” at the end of the war  and how Confederate Lt.  Gen. Edmund Kirby Smith of Missouri didn’t surrender until 45 days AFTER Lee surrendered to Grant at Appomattox, be sure to buy A State Divided: The Civil War Letters of James Calaway Hale and Benjamin Petree of Andrew County, Missouri on Feb. 1 on Amazon!


TONIGHT'S THE NIGHT!

A State Divided will be available starting at midnight!

Zoom Book Launch on Feb. 1 at 7 p.m.

Email tonyagrahammcquade@gmail.com for the Zoom link.



1 Day until my Zoom Presentation, but 0 Days until Book Launch!


BLAST OFF!

The book is now available on Amazon - a bit early!

Here's the LINK. Woohoo!








Tuesday, January 16, 2024

Exciting News ... "A State Divided: The Civil War Letters of James Callaway Hale and Benjamin Petree of Andrew County, Missouri" is Coming Soon!

Chasing History: Exploring My Ancestral Roots - Blog Post #36
By Tonya Graham McQuade


It's hard to believe, but after two years of reading through family letters, researching the Civil War, making two trips to Missouri and one to Virginia to visit relevant sites, and doing lots of writing and editing, A State Divided: The Civil War Letters of James Calaway Hale and Benjamin Petree of Andrew County, Missouri is ready to be launched into the world! On February 1, the two-year anniversary of my receiving the email from Jeremy telling be about these letter, I will be joined by family, friends, and colleagues in a "Zoom Celebration" of these amazing letters, the fascinating journey they inspired, and the end product that has finally taken shape.


A State Divided will be available on Amazon.com beginning Feb. 1 at midnight - and of course I hope you'll order a copy! On January 23, I will begin a 10-day "countdown" on Facebook ("Tonya Graham McQuade - Author") and Instagram (@tonyamcquade) featuring brief excerpts from the book to introduce some of the key people, events, and topics it will address. If you're not on social media, I will also share my countdown items here on this blog.


I thought it would be fun to try to capture some of the key elements of the first couple chapters in a poem to help promote the book to my "poetry friends," who are used to me doing a very different kind of writing. So, unable to sleep since my mind was awhirl, I got up early Saturday and wrote the following. It throws a lot at you - names of people, places, events, laws, etc. - without a lot of explanations. But, if you read the book, you'll get all the details and have a much better understanding of the important role Missouri played in the Civil War and and know why many people believe the war actually started there!


A State Divided: Poetic Thoughts on Missouri in the Civil War

By Tonya McQuade


A state divided, a nation torn;

Neighbors fighting, all forlorn –

Many believe the Civil War started

In “Show Me” Missouri, its causes here charted.


Missouri and Maine in 1821 became states,

Keeping the balance in slavery debates.

Bordering eight states – four slave, four free –

With ten percent slaves - was Missouri.


The northwest Platte Purchase slavery extended,

The Missouri Compromise challenged, amended.

The Indian Removal Act was, too, set aquiver –

The new border pushed tribes west of the river.


The population exploded, “new land” for the taking;

Northerners, Southerners new homes were making –

St. Joseph, the start to the Oregon Trail

And the Pony Express, now delivering mail.


The Fugitive Slave Law triggered more strife;

Caught in the middle, tensions were rife.

The Kansas-Nebraska Act meant slave or free

Was now left to popular sovereignty.


"Bleeding Kansas" erupted in border war killing

And fraudulent voting, with much blood spilling.

John Brown and sons rampaged at Pottawatomie;

Bushwhackers retaliated – Osawatomie.


The Dred Scott decision – one of the worst –

Was fought in the courts of Missouri first.

Lincoln was elected, but only this state

Had Douglas on top; they soon questioned their fate.


In a vote for secession, a Union win carried;

But in much disunity the state soon was buried.

Liberty Arsenal, the Camp Jackson Affair,

Lyon, and Wide-Awakes made tempers flare.


At Planter’s House Hotel, leaders disagreed;

Jackson and Price each raced off on a steed.

The Capitol abandoned, soon armed conflict stirred;

The Battle of Boonville saw Missouri secured.


Two governments emerged – with Gamble appointed

And Jackson in exile, Missouri was disjointed.

Then Fremont’s Emancipation and martial law

Earned condemnation; feelings ran raw.


To all this melee, my ancestors arrived;

Through family letters, their stories survived.

The Hales and Petrees built family farms,

But “Bloody Andrew” County threatened them harms.


By Confederate guerrillas, a brother was killed;

In the Missouri militia, six months they fulfilled.

Confederate Camp Highly – Missouri State Guard;

Union Camp Gentry – Missouri Home Guard.


Clashes and killings, romps, raids, and routs;

Cities divided – worries spawned doubts.

After Wilson’s Creek, Lyon roared no more,

The first Union General killed in the war.


All ensued in Missouri, a state quite divided;

Here much transpired, and never one-sided.

If you want to know more, then read my new book -

The details are there if you just take a look!


Some of the letters that were in the box I received from Jeremy


How many of the allusions did you catch? Did you know Missouri had more than 1,000 military engagements on its soil during the Civil War - the third most of any state after Virginia and Tennessee? Or that the Confederate General Edmurd Kirby Smith, who commanded the Trans-Mississippi Department (which included Missouri), didn't surrender until 45 days after Gen. Robert E. Lee surrendered to Gen. Ulysses S. Grant at Appomattox?


Find out more interesting facts during the 10-Day Countdown starting January 23, and be sure to order my book on February 1 on Amazon! If you want to take a look back at how this journey began, here's a link to my very first blog post on April 30, 2022. And if you want to attend the Book Launch Zoom Party on Feb. 1, email me at tonyagrahammcquade@gmail.com with your address so I can add you to the Evite list. I'll be sharing favorite book excerpts, photos from relevant historical sites, and some of the other items that were included with the letters, and talking a bit about what comes next. Hope to see you there!




The flag James C. Hale carried with him throughout the war,
made for him by his daughter Mary Ann







Sunday, December 10, 2023

My Mother: The One Who Taught Me to Love the Holidays

Chasing History: Exploring My Ancestral Roots - Blog Post #35

By Tonya Graham McQuade


One of Mom's Handmade Ornaments

It’s been a while since I’ve added a new post, and with the holidays approaching, I thought I’d take a break from my “historical ancestor” posts and write about someone much closer to me: my mother. I still intend to get back to my posts exploring my Scots-Irish ancestry and other family roots, but I’ve decided here to honor the person who taught me how to celebrate the holidays and to love Christmas and all its adornments: Dorothy Ann (Wagner) Graham.


My mom: Dorothy "Dotty" Graham


Anyone who knows me knows I love Christmas. Each year I write an annual Christmas poem to update friends and family on the “news” of our year, and each year I ask my husband and son (and this year my new son-in-law) to help retrieve the 16+ boxes of Christmas decorations from the attic so I can begin transforming our home into a Christmas Wonderland. We now put up three Christmas trees each year (one real and two fake) in different parts of the house, mostly to help hold our many ornaments which no longer fit on one tree. Why so many? Well, there are many ornaments marking special milestones (birthdays, anniversaries, graduations, weddings), special interests of the kids from various years as they were growing up (ballet, soccer, Harry Potter, Narnia, Barbie, Spongebob, etc.), and childhood art projects and photos.


Even more, however, come from various locations around the world. Each time we travel somewhere, ornaments are typically the “souvenirs” I choose since they can fit in our carry-on luggage, and I love reliving the memories each year as I decorate our tree. Quite a few of those souvenir ornaments are from from travel adventures with my mom - to Prince Edward Island (where we went on the "Anne of Green Gables" tour and learned to crack and eat whole lobsters in 2005), the Ashland Shakespeare Festival (where she and Anna I saw a couple plays and had lots of fun exploring the boutiques in town in 2012), the Statue of Liberty and Ellis Island (from when Anna and I visited New York City with my mom over Spring Break in 2014), Skagway (from when we took a family cruise to Alaska for my mom's 70th birthday in 2012), St. Thomas (from a Disney Eastern Caribbean Cruise for my parents' 50th anniversary in 2015), Disneyland (from a family Thanksgiving celebration in 2018), and Grand Cayman (from a Disney Western Caribbean Cruise for my mom's 80th birthday in 2022).


Anne of Green Gables Ornament from Prince Edward Island in 2005

Lobster Ornament - I love the memory of learning how to crack and eat a whole lobster together at the GEMS Conference!

Statue of Liberty Ornament from Spring Break Trip in 2014

Ornament from 80th Birthday Disney "Western Caribbean" Cruise 

There are also many special keepsake ornaments made by my mom through the years - some of which I remember helping to make and giving as gifts to various family friends. You see, one of the things my mom and dad both taught me was about the joy of giving homemade gifts as I watched them give ornaments, wood projects, homemade jams and jellies, pies, and other holiday crafts to family members and friends. They also taught me to enjoy opening up my home and showed me how to be a good host, especially at the holidays. From them I learned that such get-togethers did not have to be fancy affairs - that sometimes, the most fun get-togethers are casual, spur of the moment, and involve games, music, and lots of merriment and cheer.


Santa Painted on a Shell by Mom and Hand-Sewn Wreath
(I remember helping to make the wreaths)

Hand-Painted Angel

Hand-Painted Santa with Bear and Tree

Hand-Crafted Christmas Ornament


My mother was also a master cookie baker - her “magic cookie tray” never seemed to be empty, unlike the one at my house - lol - much to my children’s chagrin. Frosted sugar cookies were one of her specialties, as were many different types of pies - pumpkin, pecan, and cheesecake being my favorites, with my husband Mike preferring the pomegranate, apple, and berry pies she would make. And while she has had to slow down on her pie making, and making lots of homemade pies is not one of the traditions I have kept up, both my daughter and my nieces have picked up the slack and become the pie makers and cookie bakers for many of our recent holiday celebrations. Anna was especially excited at one recent Christmas to get a special binder of recipes from Grama.


Anna shows off her Recipe Binder

Anna and cousins Violet, Greta, and Alice show off their homemade Christmas Treats

Anna - taking after Grama - with one of her Delicious Pies

I also watched my parents send out Christmas cards every year - and I have been doing the same now for many years. This year marked my 32nd year, in fact, of sending out a Christmas poem along with my cards. I know many have stopped sending out cards, and it seems I get fewer every year, but it’s still something I enjoy doing. And it’s something that continues to be important to my mom - even though writing has become more difficult for her, and sending out cards is a much more time-consuming process than it used to be.


This year's Christmas Card from my Parents (Photo from Easter 2023)

This year, I know, my mom is having a harder time getting into the holiday spirit as she deals with more health issues and less energy. It’s hard to see her slow down. But as I put up the many decorations around my house, I enjoyed thinking of all the special memories behind so many of the Christmas decorations she has made for us through the years - not only the ornaments but also the stockings that hang on our mantel and the pillows on our couch. I also took notice of how many others she has purchased for me through the years, including a Nativity Set from Mexico, the Advent Calendar that hangs on our door each year, and most of the “Precious Moments” ornaments that now hang on our “Precious Moments Christmas Tree” in the entryway (my mom bought these after I chose "Precious Moments" as the theme for Anna's bedroom when she was born). 


Mike's and my Christmas Stockings (made by Mom)

Aaron & Anna's Christmas Stockings (made by Grama)

Matching Pillows

Hand-Painted Snowman

Nativity Set Mom bought for me when she and Dad visited Mexico

"Precious Moments" Christmas Tree & Advent Calendar

What's more, it was my mom who first showed me how to make photo albums and scrapbooks - something that has given me great joy through the years. I love taking and editing the photos, reliving all the memories, putting them together in creative and artistic ways (now mostly in digital scrapbooks), journaling/writing text to help remember the details, and sharing the albums with friends as we tell stories from our travels. My mom has many such albums at her home. Here's Anna showing Grama one of her college scrapbooks last Christmas.

Anna shares photos from her overseas adventures

Finally, it was my mom (along with my dad) who truly recognized the value of family outings and vacations as a way to have fun together, celebrate special milestones, and create wonderful family memories. For my mom's 60th birthday, rather than a party, she took us all to Disneyland - and we stayed at the Disneyland Resort for the first time. For her 70th birthday, we took a Disney cruise to Alaska, and for her 80th birthday, we took another Disney cruise to the Western Caribbean. For my parents' 50th anniversary, rather than go off on their own romantic adventure together, they took the family on a Disney cruise to the Eastern Caribbean. Are you getting the sense that my mom loves Disney? She definitely does! I've gotten lots of present ideas from her love of Disney - and she definitely passed on that love to Anna, who has now visited all six Disneylands around the world!

A new Disney Sweater for Mom

Disney Pajamas and Slippers for Mom

So, here's to the holidays - and to my mom for always helping to make them so special. We all appreciate her and look forward to this year's Christmas celebration. Don't worry, Mom - you can rest this year, and we'll do all the work. You've taught us well.

Christmas 2019 - the last All-Family Christmas Photo I can find
(we need to take one this year with Nick in it!)

Following in My Great-Grandparents’ Footsteps: An Afternoon at Strawberry Hill in Golden Gate Park

Chasing History: Exploring My Ancestral Roots - Blog Post #59 By Tonya McQuade We enjoyed the views as we hiked to the top of Strawberry Hi...